- Dr. Lalit Chawla
E#59: PD 59 The Power of the Word 'Yet'
This is a episode explains how one word can change your vision from despair to hope.
(This is the core of the transcript from the podcast. The Intro has been removed and some areas improved for reading ease.)
This is a quick podcast about a word that can help us reframe how we look at ourselves in a way that serves us in a more positive, constructive manner.
So many people have negative, self-limiting beliefs that prevent them from improving their lives. I’ve seen it countless times in my patients, nurses, other doctors and even in children. It can happen to basically anyone. Having negative self-talk has become part of most people’s mindset today. Science says that we have about 50 to 60,000 thoughts a day, and many of them are rooted in pessimistic and defeatist negative or self-limiting beliefs we have about ourselves and our abilities.
For instance, we may think we’re not fit enough, smart enough, disciplined enough, that we are overly shy or that we are poor communicators. Many times we may feel we are the very definition of a bad father or mother, a horrible sister, brother, an insensitive friend or a terrible employee. Negativity in our lives can limit our ability to succeed and impede our ability to feel joy, contentment and harmony. It is important to make a micro change in our mental habits in order to think better. By merely adding the word “yet” at the end of any sentence, we can reframe negative ideas and self-limiting beliefs about ourselves and achieve the perspective and actions we aspire to.
If you find yourself believing something negative such as “I am lacking discipline”, “I don’t exercise”,” I procrastinate”, “I have trouble with people’s names”, or “I don’t read enough” and you add the word ‘yet’ at the end of that thought, it changes your narrative from one of despair to one of hope. What you believe is what you’ll achieve. Everything starts with a belief. Saying “I’m not a good father yet I find time consistently to play with my children” or “I’m not a good reader yet I read five books last year and am interested in starting another” is so much more constructive for us.
“I’m not good at exercising yet I walked more in the last week, and I know I can keep it up.”
“I’m not an excellent communicator yet I’m always learning and becoming better than I was yesterday.”
When you add “yet” at the end of a sentence your brain opens up to the possibility that you aren’t limited - that you can do more. Without that reframe, you internalize a thought that holds you back - that keeps you from those positive changes and actions.
Everything starts with a belief. If you believe it, then you’ll see it. Too often we stop short from seeing our potential to do better or blind ourselves to the good things we are already doing.
The word ”yet” is not an excuse to procrastinate but a word to empower and enhance your ability to visualize potential and plan for the future.
It is your identity that shapes your beliefs and actions. So the next time you find yourself saying something that doesn’t serve your interest add the word “yet” at the end of that thought. The next time you hear someone say something negative about themselves, teach them to use the word “yet”. “Yet” opens up a whole new world of hope and possibilities to be your best at work, home and play.
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